10 Gallon Jug
- Glen Cavallo
- Oct 28, 2016
- 2 min read
“With a little time, and a little more insight, we begin to see both ourselves and our enemies in humbler profiles."
Lewis B. Smedes
10 GALLON JUG
I once heard a speaker state that carrying a grudge for someone is like carrying a 10 gallon jug on your back. As long as you carry those ill feelings, you are carrying the extra weight or extra burden!
I saw this first hand in my life when two people who were very dear to me (a father and a son) had a "falling out". In fact, they didn't talk to one another for over 30 years! They never had a chance to reconcile. The father died suddenly and the son didn't get a chance to say goodbye or "I am sorry". I hurt for both of them. That's a lot of burden to carry around.
Being in hospice for many years, I talked with chaplains who tried their best to heal these type of relationships and to bring patients closer to God during their final days. They often commented how frustrating it was to watch two people dig their heels in rather than walk closer to one another or to God at the end of life.
Want to stop "the crazy cycle" that exists when two people carry grudges? Encourage one to be the first to say "I am sorry". I have watched marriages, businesses and personal relationships strengthen and repair when one person takes that first step. It doesn't make them "the weaker one", but from where I sit, it makes them "the stronger one".
Have a great weekend!
Glen Cavallo is a 30+ year healthcare executive that has chosen to share the many lessons he has learned with others. Glen provides inspirational keynotes and speeches at regional, annual and awards meetings, serves in advisory and board positions for companies and helps to mentor and coach leaders in all areas of business. Glen's website is glencavallo.com